forgiveness...

for me this is a hard word to think about. i don’t know if i really know what forgiveness means or what true forgiveness is. does it mean that when someone says they are sorry and they mean it and you say you forgive them that you will never think about it again or let it interfere with how you feel about them? does it mean that you will allow them back into your life/heart over and over even though they may hurt you again? does forgiving mean forgetting? can you forgive and still walk away from that person? even if they are your spouse or family member? is asking for forgiveness just as much for you as it is for the other person? is it hard for everyone to forgive or just me? is it strange to ask for forgiveness from someone that doesn’t even know you have hurt them or said something against them? if there is someone in my life that i haven’t forgiven does that mean that God doesn’t forgive me and i am going to hell or something? why didn’t God make it so that once we speak the words "i forgive you" that our minds are erased? why is forgiveness such a struggle for so many people or is it a stuggle for a lot of people?

these are all things that i wonder about. there is a person from my life that i have been unable to forgive because the things they have done to me are so hard to get past. this is not something i am proud of and it is something i am working on but it there none-the-less. there are also people that i feel that i need to ask for forgiveness. holding a grudge against someone for something they did to me when i should let it do. being mad at a boy that broke up with me even though i know it was the best thing. saying i forgive someone when i really don’t and i choose to hold on to it long after the fact. thinking mean things about someone. having an issue with someone and never saying anything and letting it come into my mind over and over again. making fun of the way people dress. talking behind someone back. there are so many wrongs i have done to others that i could spend my whole life asking for forgiveness from people. just thinking about it is exhausting.

from what i can tell, with my very limited knowledge, forgiveness is something that everyone deals with in their lives. i don’t think God would have put it in the Bible so much if it wasn’t a big deal. right? this is one of those things that makes us all the same. no matter if you are a homeless person living in an cardboard box or you are the Queen of England there has been a time in your life when you have had to ask someone to forgive you or had to lay the hurt down to forgive. forgiveness is even in the 12 step program (step #9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others if you were wondering.) which means that asking for and being forgiven is a part of being a better person as well as a person of God. basically forgiveness is no joke and something that i want to spend a lot more of my time thinking about and doing and asking for when i need to.

maybe ill do a little forgiving right now.

friendship...

is such a gift. the bond with a friend can be such an amazing feeling. for some reason it is often so much easier to share something with a friend then it is to share it with someone in your family. on the flipside sometimes friendship can be very very hard. sometimes it is hard because we are not good friends. sometimes it is hard because one of the people in the friendship is going through something. there are so many reason why a friendship can begin to crumble.

a friendship in trouble is something i am, regrettably, dealing with in my life right now. i am by no means saying that a friendship in my life is ending because i dont feel that is the case. my relationship is just going through a transition point. the day after i talked to my mom about what was happening in my life and what was going on in this relationship she heard Charles Stanley speaking about friendship and broken friendships on the radio. this short 20 minute sermon spoke to me so much and i have listened to it numerous times in the past few days. i encourage you to do that same. i believe that God wants us to be good friends to one another and when a friendship is struggling i think that God wants us to make it right.

please take the time to have a listen. Troubled Friendship

blogging...

i in no way thought that writing this blog was going to make me feel so good and so strange at the same time. it is very weird to know that because of what i type on this blog people are seeing a side of me they might not have ever seen otherwise. writing things that are really real on here is a little scarier then i thought it would be. putting all these feeling out there for anyone to see and judge. it is very weird and i feel very self conscience.

with all that said i want to say how much i appreciate anyone who reads this blog. if you feel led please pray for me and the walk i am beginning with the Lord.

maybe i like blogging :)

a life moment

first of all, i would like to say that i NEVER thought that i would have a blog. i don’t feel like anything i have to say is really that interesting and my life is pretty flipping boring if i really think about it. but here i am typing this blog to all my, soon to arrive, adoring fans. if you read this you probably already know and love me so i assume you adore me as well. :) hope this is something you look forward to reading. (hey sees, wouldn’t it be crazy if my blog was the next "matt, liz, and madeline"?? wishful thinking :))

the writing of this blog was sparked by the happening of my life over the past week or so. last saturday i celebrated my 24th birthday. the night before my big change of age i was out with some friends and started to feel a little down. i was thinking about how i don’t really like my life all that much. not that i don’t have good things in it because i very much do but i guess i just don’t like the "me" part of my own life. i decided that i needed to get over myself and have a good birthday weekend with my close friends, which i did. saturday was a great day with some of the most important people in my life and a birthday i will always remember. when i woke up sunday morning i was ready to head to church and enjoy a great day with more people that i love. a huge fight with my best friend, Page, changed all of this. i won’t get into the fight itself i will only get into the way this fight actually brought on the changes i now want to make. i have spent a lot of time over the past few months really not liking the "me" part of my life. i have great friends, an amazing family, and a niece that makes my world a better place. the problem with my life is me. me. me. me. and i have decided that i want very much to change this.

since sunday i have been nothing short of miserable about my life and Page and school and anything else you can name. yesterday as i stood outside on my porch smoking a cigarette (sorry to the people that this will make sad, i just do it occasionally sometimes for some stupid reason. stopping this stupid cycle is part of the change) and i had what i am now referring to as a life moment. all the sudden i had this amazing smack of clarity. i proceeded to run inside and tell my roommate all the things that were going through my head. the things i am going to share with you.

i decided that from last night on i want my life to be different. for many months now i have been miserable on the inside and really not liked myself inside or out. this changed last night. i have decided that i want to eat less, drink less, stop even having an occasional cigarette, work out more, have better relationships, keep my room cleaner, do better in school, treat people better, take my life more seriously, be happier, be kinder, have better language, read my bible more, be more involved in my church, pray more, seek God more, worry less, be a better version of myself, among many other things. i had a life moment that i am sure many people have had before because it seems so simple yet it is very hard. i just want to be better. i want to feel better, look better, act better, just be better. while i was standing on my porch last night thinking about Page and where we are right now and how miserable i was i just said to myself "self, this is stupid!" if i want to be happier and do more with my life then I need to do everything i can to be happier and do more with my life. so that is my plan from here on out. if i want to be a good partner, friend, person then i have to start by working on myself.

i hope this all doesn’t seem too vague or random and that if you read this you will feel lead to hold me accountable to the things i am saying here. if you feel like randomly calling me up or emailing me one day to see how i am doing on this new adventure please do so. if anything it will help me know that you are on my side. i will end this first entry by typing word for word what i told my roommate last night after my life moment. for me this really encompasses what this whole change is about. "I want to stop bitching about my life all the time and never doing anything about it."